Click HERE for “The Humane Separation Checklist.”

1. Slow down.
2. Use the right kind of help.
3. Use UpToParents.org.
4. Be good educators.
5. Make it about the kids.
6. Plan the children's talk.
7. Forgive mistakes.
8. Don't overuse law.
9. Protect separation day.
10. Protect family times.
11. Agree on your interaction.
12. Resolve budget issues/spend less.
13. Agree on what to tell others.
14. Solve—and avoid—problems.

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