A final thought

 

Without a thought of compensation, parents sacrifice everything for their children.

They generously, almost recklessly, give time, money, and peace of mind. They never tally their sacrifices, nor do they expect a fair return—no fair return other than their children’s happiness and the hope that they'll do well.

Tragically, the combative divorce can lead parents to begin keeping tabs—and hoarding what was once freely given. “My co-parent is being combative, failing our children, so I will, too”—this is the mindset that takes children as its first victims, but inevitably also the parent holding that mindset.

If this has happened to you, we invite you to return to your natural heroic state. You and your children will both be the better for it.

 

Charlie and Barb Asher
UpToParents

“One generation plants trees; another gets the shade.”

—Chinese Proverb

“She made me a security blanket when I was born. That faded green blanket lasted just long enough for me to realize that the security part came from her.”

—Alexander Crane

“My father died many years ago, and yet when something special happens to me, I talk to him secretly not really knowing whether he hears, but it makes me feel better to half believe it.”

—Natasha Josefowitz