Some things to do instead of battling.
1. Give yourself credit for yourself credit for your accomplishments.
Our culture can offer up a myth that divorce is a momentary event starting with hurt and disillusionment and ending with the fall of a judge’s gavel. Nothing, of course, could be further from the truth.
The actual losses of divorce strike at the heart of what we believe about ourselves and where we feel we are headed.
For all the divorce mistakes you may have made (and we all make many), credit yourself for every time you have shielded a child from conflict.
These silent victories are often what combine over time to give parents and their children the chance to do better and move forward.
"Our errors are surely not such awfully solemn things. In a world where we are so certain to incur them in spite of all our caution, a certain lightness of heart seems healthier than this excessive nervousness on their behalf."
—William James