1. Be aware of just how much your child is going through.
Children’s feelings are as real as adults’—and children often don’t have the life experience and other resources to deal with them. They will need time and lots of help in accepting this enormous change in their lives.
Consider too that while divorce is a mammoth event for adults, it’s that plus a series of huge ongoing losses for a child. To a child, divorce means being separated from one parent every time there’s a reunion with the other, always living between two worlds, and constantly taking the temperature of how these worlds are relating.
"I have yet to encounter a case of divorce in which the offspring do not experience intense sadness, anxiety, and confusion."
In the Best Interest of the Child: How to Protect Your Child from the Pain of Your Divorce, p. 2.
—Stanton E. Samenow