4. “Let's put your wishes aside for the moment; tell me what you think your children need.”

The sensible and conscientious family attorney will emphasize that children’s needs soar during and after divorce—and that children suffer when their parents remain in conflict.

A good attorney will want clients to tap into their heroic wish to save their children from harm—and even to use that wish to propel them to better problem-solving.

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