Might Be Surprised to Hear from that Lawyer
5. “Divorce is about winning with your spouse, not over your spouse.”
Remember, in most family cases parents either win together or lose together.
They’ll win together by focusing on the future and what they can do for their children. Or they’ll lose together by remaining focused on the past and their resentments with each other.
Many forward-thinking lawyers make staying away from court the premiere guiding principle for helping their clients. (For just one example, see Bill Ferguson’s website Divorce As Friends).
For many reasons, legal battles should not be used except as a last resort. They tend to be expensive, divisive, child-destructive, and almost always of no help in supporting parents’ co-parenting relationship.
Almost all divorce cases and other family cases are heard not by juries but by experienced judges; unless the case clearly calls for a battle, judges know the pointlessness of most divorce battles and, if anything, reward parents who offer cooperation.
