4. Honoring their time together

Absent an agreement to change your schedule, honor all times scheduled for your children to be with their other parent. And offer to your co-parent any times your children can’t be watched by you or your family.

Give yourself up to 10 points on your Score Sheet for the extent you can say, “Our children’s time with their other parent is a priority with me. I make sure that they have ongoing contact together, and I make sure they can be with their other parent any time my family and I can’t watch them.”

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“I have yet to encounter a case of divorce in which the offspring do not experience intense sadness, considerable anxiety, and confusion.”

In the Best Interest of the Child: How to Protect Your Child from the Pain of Your Divorce.

—Stanton E. Samenow