1. In most cases, parents either win together or lose together.

No one “wins” in divorce, and any crusade for “victory” will actually cause more conflict, expense, and damage to children.

Every common interest you had before you separated (protecting your children, saving your resources, solving problems rather than living in blame) —you have double today.  

In most cases, a good result is possible only for the parent who works for a good result for the entire family, including the other parent.

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  • The more parents focus on their children’s needs, the easier it will be to see how to win together.
  • Ask yourself about the real costs—financial and emotional—of continued battles.
  • When you’re ready, develop a habit of asking what might help your children’s relationship with their other parent.

"You can get everything you want, if you will just help enough other people get what they want."

—Zig Zigler