2. Protecting your children can be your light out of hurt and fear.

There is a guiding light almost all separated and divorced parents can use: parents who build peace for their children will also do best for themselves.

What an unspeakable tragedy that so many parents can be lured into thinking they must fight.  

Parents who build peace, courtesy, and cooperation for their children can channel their money and emotions into building a better future rather than arguing the past.

The peace you build for your children will be the peace you too can live in.

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  • See every piece of family interaction through your children's eyes.
  • Consider the possibility that when you build peace for your children, you will be able to live in that peace.
  • Consider also that the best predictor of how well you will do in this tough time in your life is how much you focus on building peace for your children. Parents who do that are the ones who (a) save money, (b) save their children, and
    (c) build a better future instead of remaining stuck in a negative past.

"If divorcing parents will agree on one thing, they will agree on everything, if that one thing is, "What do you want your children to look like when they are 25?"

—Pat Brown
attorney/mediator/counselor