5. Parent conflict can be gravely dangerous to children.

Children have no defense against their parents' anger, and they experience attacks between their parents as attacks on them. Period.

Everyone makes mistakes in separation and divorce, so forgive yourself for the ones you've made. And as soon as you do, reconnect with the hero in you who will do anything to give your children a safe and peaceful childhood.  

Because a child is depending on you for just that.

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  • Recall every day what it must be like for any child to grow up between warring parents.
  • Notice that all writing on separation and divorce concludes that nothing is as dangerous or damaging to children as parent conflict.
  • Spend at least one minute a day closely noticing your children and how completely they depend on you to give them a safe world.

"Some parents desperately hold onto the belief that children are not affected by their parent's conflict. Sadly, this just isn't true. Unhappy homes make unhappy children, and every divorce will take its toll unless some corrective steps are taken."

—Archibald D. Hart